I have not used any software to transfer from DVD.
On the old DVD camcorder I have never done more than finalize in the menu on the camcorder then copy the resulting mpeg files to the PC for editing.
If you felt the DVD system was hard, I strongly suggest you talk with those that sell the new ones and ask for a full refund privilege if you can't do what you want.
In this forum are suggestions for models so I'm skipping any model suggestion for now. But your post makes me worry you will not be happy with the new system.