Community poll forum: Would you have done that to your daugther's laptop?

1- waste of good ammunition, 2- waste of reasonably good Electronics, 3- (now here's the part most people don't want to hear) a child is not born into this world with per set characteristics and attitudes, they learn them from the significant others in their lives, ie: parents, grandparents and lacking input from them then their peers and resource materials. Still it boils down to the simple fact that disrespectful, whining brats, learn it from their parents or the lack of the parents input. The school is not responsible , nor are the TV shows or their reading material...(Guess who controls those inputs, or is supposed to do so?)....You don't have to isolate or abuse your children to teach them respect and proper/accepted values....Hint: "Time out" ain't the route.....
Bob

In this case, the guy was obviously hurt, disappointed and humiliated by his daughter's disrespect of not only her parents but of someone works in their home. It sounds like she is doing the typical teenaged "gee how far can I push it" routine, and she chose a day when her father had worked on something especially for her. I do not think he was wrong in what he did, I feel a little sorry for him, but I also think he could have started teaching her some humility and manners at a younger age. He didn't shoot the stupid thing off her desk he took it out back away from people and put it down safely, while still venting his frustrations in a big way. For all you who think he went too far shooting a laptop on the ground away from the house, how many of you have actually seen kids whose parents have anger management issues?

I think the battery would have disappeared first. Secondly she would have been sent to her room to rant to the walls.

The youtube title is "Face book parenting for the troubled teen". I
suggest some of the teen's trouble is with her hormones, her parents,
and some of it might be self-posted youtube videos where whining,
blaming, back biting, gossiping, showing disrespect and airing family
business is OK. Like Daddy (and Mom?), like teen. Daddy will discover
this teen will find other outlets for expressing herself. Let's hope it
isn't risky behavior like run-away or using drugs.
I'd have given
the computer to a charity which the teen has chosen after researching,
with my parental oversite, at least 10 charities. In addition my teen
AND I would do volunteer work for that charity. And maybe we would
do work for a charity of MY choice as well. "My choice" not as punishment, but
so my teen could learn sometimes in life you are required to do what is necessary not just what I want.
I'd have some work to do too. I would also seek professional help so we
could learn to better communicate, work with each other and be with each other.
My teen would have to do many chores to first pay for the lap top and to buy a replacement computer.
I
got an allowance tied to doing chores around the house and for the
family like laundry, dinner, and helping take care of Grandma. It was
made
clear to me the more I worked the more I got paid. And some of my "pay"
was in food, clothes, a roof and a voice in family decisions and eventually part of my college education.
BTW Guns are NOT EVER part of the answer.

Tempting as a violent response might be, it's a poor example of anger management as well as a waste of resources. I would have repeated previously given admonishments about personal responsibilities within the family unit in return for all the blessings she enjoyed as I took it away. I'd then give it to someone with a better attitude and fewer blessings.

My daughter is married to social media. She speaks text-talk if and when she does speak. She has no social skills whatsoever because her communication is through her smart phone and computer. This father did what he had to do. If I had a gun, I would do the same.

The parent is not teaching the kid in the right way. teaching your children starts at home.

Donating it would only **** the problems to a different family to deal with. If a needy family needs a laptop, then they DON'T need one. A laptop is a pure luxury, not a necessity in any sense. Destroying it like he did sent a very clear message not only to his daughter but to all her friends and any other unruly kids that see it - DAD IS IN CHARGE NOT YOU. GOT IT?

We need a lot more dads and parents doing this kind of messaging. I bet the daughter won't post private issues on the internet for quite some time. Also, if she does it at 18, she can go to jail for libel. Kids apparently don't know that fact either. I keep telling people - what if you had a high profile professional job and YOUR kid posted the 'goods' about you and your family life for the whole world to see. How then will your career be affected?

Best solution - don't let anyone under 21 have internet access or cell phones. Treat them like firearms laws. Problems dry up and go away...

Why are you coddling the kid? She was wrong and dad was right. The parents are in charge, not anyone else. If the parents feel that the kid needs to do whatever chores the parents deem necessary the kid should do them. Ummm... Who pays for the roof over the kid's head? The food the kid eats? Any medical/dental? Gasoline to take them anywhere? It is a very good message to do what the father did. I think he was entirely justified in his decision and not a fool in any sense of the word.
Too bad too sad for her feelings and opinions. They mean NOTHING. Worth NOTHING. She is to obey her parents, period. And keep her mouth shut. And I thought this country was full of god fearing christians... Apparently not.

If Dad is nutty enough to shoot his child's lap top his problems go so much deeper. I would worry about him more than her.

A word to the wise Mister Z, Most times when one argues with a moron, by standers need a program to tell which is which.The pacifiers and time-outers are programed to shun responsbility for their own actions and find it easy to place blame anywhere except where it belongs. Sadly, they teach their off-spring to do likewise. It is the rest of the world's job to clean up the mess they breed.
Bob

Lets analyze this:
1- If it were an apple laptop or iPad, I doubt he would had shoot it. But sense it was a Windows (probably an XP), it deserved to be put out of it's misery.
<div>2- Shock an AUGH. As Americans, we have the


proclivity


to do things big. One shot would had rendered the computer inoperable. 8 rounds constitutes pre-medicated ANGER.</div>3- The line had been drawn in the sand and clearly his daughter crossed it. Such actions between countries has as much and less caused major conflicts and historic consequences thus I do believe the father did have some restraints here.
4- I doubt if the daughter and also the other computer that had to witness the horrible demise of his fellow sibling will further escalate the situation. I bet that the surviving laptop will double spell check and think twice about blue screening. Being that this punishment was broadcasted on Youtube, all other computers will start to behave better, or they may start tweeting and blogging about this horrible act of revenge and rise up and demand a constitutional right not to be the blame for inappropriate input.

Rest in piece(s) PC, Tablets will not come to your rescue either.

He did what he thought was the best course of action. Taking it away will never solve the issue. Destroying at least sends the message that DAD IS IN CHARGE, NOT HER. She betrayed his trust. She deserves a LOT more punishment than he did. I would take ALL privileges away - everything. No TV, no internet, no phone, no music, no nothing. I would make her do as much housework as possible and contact her teachers to ensure she had enough homework to keep her busy when the chores are done.
Once she turned 18 she would be given a choice - either respect and obey her father or get the h3ll out and don't come back. No negotiating.

Sorry was at wit's end and felt like getting rid of the laptop was the only thing to do. It's not against the law to shoot a laptop that he bought for his daughter. He works IT he can replace it if he wants. I'd have sold it as I dont own a gun. How many of you have wanted to throw your laptop out the window, run it over with your car, etc.. pretty sure most of us. So what is the difference? Because it was his daughters? Or because it was extreme? Im sure the guy would not do harm to his daughter he was just fed up and sounds like mom was too and she agreed in on the shooting of the laptop.

Sounds like the daughter is ungrateful which as a child we all are I believe because we don't know any better until we grow up and have to do these things ourselves.

By the way the guy got a visit from CPS and the police yesterday. Obviously they are after guys who shoot laptops then guys who are out molesting kids or actually beating kids etc....

Just because he shot ONE laptop doesn't mean he shoots things out of anger all the time. Presumptions like yours is why there are unreasonable gun control laws. The father owns the laptop - he can do anything he wants to it. She owns NOTHING until she moves out and buys her own stuff.

I wish I could see a video on her reactions and how/what the results were from the family.
Maybe she got it through her think skull that she is not to behave that way.