by PKsteven - 12/4/05 10:30 PM
In Reply to: WHOA!!! by photoxprt
I assumed "which I usually know better" that you were questioning the study and his telling the truth. It somewhat came off that way. There are so many anti smokers out to kick you down these days it's easy to get offended. I don't usually get this upset in posts but reading so many ignorant comments...what the hell is wrong with this world? Blame handicap, smokers, old people, phones etc...How can people be so quick to put the blame on something other than their own driving or just being a bad driver, you know?
When I hear , medical research, you have to admit, that doesn't ring a trusting bell in many ears. I do apologize though and let's get started on a different note here.
My wife has uterin (if spelled right) cancer, spinal compression from neck down, torn shoulder, among other things and she is only 30.
Not to ramble but I want to give a personal example of why I get so defensive about people judging others for things and putting blame and having so much ignorance...Both my wife and I came from extremely abusive homes, had nothing, stabbed by my own father,beaten,etc...the old story. Anyway, we got together, her 16 me 18 and had our first child,a year and a half later, which both of us vowed not to drink or do drugs and make a different life for our kids, to break the chain handed down by the families. She got cancer right after, we had been kicked out of our home\rental so the guy\owner could move in with his girlfriend. We had no money, and were homeless. Years later we ended up buying a home, going good until I found out I have a bad back which is going to paralize me eventually, my wife and I had our gallbladders out within two years of eachother, my son had a tumor in between this, my younger boy had a possiblility of needing brain surgery, my older son has chronic athsma, allergies, etc..and was hospitalized for over a year.My wife got hurt on her job 2 years after me. I wanted to go to college to learn the pc trade to make a living for my family, construction was no longer an option. My daughter was born 8 months ago and stopped breathing, she was on monitors etc..while my wife's c section ended up going bad, she had major clotting through the whole area and almost died three days later. They had to rip her staples out without pain medication and her stomach had to remain open for over 6 months as they packed it with gauze until it healed. After my daughter got better she began having major acid reflux trouble and wouldn't sleep and was on medication for this. My knees are now bad due to artharitis along with my back. We are losing our home from lack of funds from medical bills etc...in the shape we are in, there is no help and I am still trying to get a job,go to college, and so is she. The school tried pressing truency charges on us even though my son was in intensive care at the hospital, we had many pissed off doctors on that one. My son got beaten by 7 little jerks at school and nothing was done. There are no jobs where we live and can't make ends meet. I am also losing my internet in a month. This believe it or not isn't even an ounce of things that have happened to us, not even close.
My point? We are simply happy people through all of this and have three polite, hard working children\save the 8 month old, but they are wonderful kids and people love them also. We still give what we can whenever we can and help anyone in need. We are poor but we are clean people, i find no excuse not to be. We are always being put down for being poor and discriminated against.
Yet we have never ever, hurt anyone, poked our noses in anyone's business, never stole anything in our life, if we see someone drop money we tell them, not keep it. We enjoy our time with our children, they are the no.1 most important things in our life. We will still have a wonderful holiday even without presents and crap, we have eachother. My kids understand that their xmas wish was that we are all together on the holidays.
So when I hear our spoiled rotten , do goody society complain, and cry because they are not happy, and can point a finger at those they feel are lower, and this shows with the driving issue....it ticks me off. Don't blame me, not my fault, smokers, cell phones, etc...yikes. I simply think that most should treasure the people in their lives, be respectful to others, and not cause such a rucus if something doesn't go their way. My family and I always respect others and remain good people (at least try our best). Why can't others do the same?
Take care, Paul