Actually you have one thing right, but probably
by Roger NC
- 1/3/13 3:55 PM
In Reply to: A lot of people by James Denison
for the wrong reason.
People marry more within their own race, I don't think anyone will deny that. Of course, there have been really very few outside of first and second generation immigrants that are of any "pure" race in the US for decades.
My wife had two great grandmothers that were mostly if not all American Indian, but her family, her generation and the previous one didn't list that as race on forms, they just listed white/caucasion. And depending on how you narrowly you define race how many different "races" any individual is likely to have as ancestors.
People of the same race probably do often fill more comfortable with each other. That would be even more true of two races that had any history of conflict in a region. Maybe most move too much now for it to be as much of a factor, but often family history, religion, community habits, a lot of social conditioning growing up led to people naturally more comfortable with people that grew up under similar conditions.
I see nothing wrong with that. That doesn't mean that I think it's better either, it just is.
People probably marry more within the same general religious beliefs too. No difference.
Acutally the more someone's backgroud is different, by anything, the more difficult making a marriage a good and last one is likely to be in my opinion. Not because it's wrong, but because there will be times that the expectations will be in opposition because of habits and beliefs learned growing up where and when you did.
Too many people don't stop and consider why they react the way they do to something, they just react, abandoning reason in favor of "trust your gut".
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